“All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of a single candle.”
— St Francis of Assisi
Have you ever wished you could start over and make a better life?
You can! You can turn and change your direction immediately. You walk it out and grow the change step by step. It is a journey, your journey. Step one is know your starting point. Ask yourself the hard questions and be real! How are you today? Are you doing okay, better off than most? You have much to be grateful for, but you feel lost. You know there is more out there for you, if only you could find it, see it, touch it, smell it, and taste it.
Are you barely getting by? Living paycheck to paycheck? Feeling weary, unhappy? If you feel your job is meaningless, you are, according to 2015 Gallup polls, part of the 68 percent that feel disengaged at work. Maybe you’ve been laid off. You want more, but you can’t do more. No time. No money. No energy. No fun. You’ve done what everyone said was the right thing to do, but it hasn’t worked out as it was supposed to. You are frustrated, hurt, sad, angry, and tired. Your relationships are a struggle. Hurt and loss run deep. What happened was not right! You feel lonely. You feel vulnerable. You may even feel shame.
Are you excited, jumping out of your skin? Your possibilities seem endless. Your future is bright, but you know things always change. You want to build a strong, sustainable future and that means a stronger, more resilient you.
If any of those statements or questions resonate with you, know that you are not alone. I know what it is like to feel comfortable, yet lost. I know what it is like to lose a loved one, be retrenched, struggle financially, be passed over because of gender and age bias, and see hopes and dreams disappear through circumstances beyond my control. I also know what it feels like to be so full of hope and excitement I can barely contain the energy. I can’t walk your path, but I do know what it is like to feel pain, be lonely, feel trapped, to feel I’m not enough, to doubt and yet feel hope and the certainty, “There is more to life than this.” In our shared humanity, I feel your frustration and pain. I feel the passion of your hopes and dreams. In our shared humanity, I seek to walk with you.
I am an author, coach, speaker and trainer. My new book, Turning on Your Light Within is a full course in one book, to assist you embrace the adventure that is your journey. It all starts by understanding where you are, setting yourself up for success and then stepping out, learning, and growing every day as you walk out your adventure and create your new future! These series of blogs highlight some of the parts of the journey, so you can get ready, so you can start over.
You decide where you go and what is important for you. Each section of my book and this series of blogs has questions for you. Answer the questions and progress. Sometimes, there will be activities. Pause, do the activity and then continue reading. Why do I do this? Without you taking action nothing will change in your life. My blogs or my book are not a race to the finish, rather an opportunity to learn. Your response creates your transformation and your new future. No-one can do your push-ups for you!
MEET YOUR JOURNEY GUIDE
So who am I and why should you be reading my blogs? I am a fellow adventurer who has always sought to live my life full of purpose, meaning and contribution. On 26 February 2014, my Facebook post said, ‘Today, I flew with eagles, touched the moon and reached for the stars.” That day I had visited NASA. Huge eagles flew above us. I actually touched a rock brought back from the moon. The stars were opened up to me through the amazing exhibits and the images from the Hubble telescope. Wow! Wow! Wow! What I didn’t realise was just how much those experiences would expand my thinking and expand my life. Fast forward to today…I share with you what I have learned and used to create a strong foundation and build an extraordinary life. The extraordinary life is my life. It is real. It is a together life, connected with those I love and care for. I feel in control of my life again. I live it and I share it with you that you may also “fly with eagles, touch the moon and reach for the stars.”
My goal each day is simple: to become better than the day before, by growing a little every day and compounding those results. I make time my ally instead of my enemy. I am an active business woman, author, coach, wife, mother, and grandmother. In my writing, I integrate fifty-plus years of education and experience to create stepping stones you can use. I share what was has been most helpful for me, so you can discover and apply the same principles to lead your life ,full of hope, meaning, and joy.
The Girl Guides (Girls Scouts) awoke in me a love of adventure and challenge and a love for the great outdoors. I learned to read maps and started my leadership journey. The world, full of adventure, opened to me. I still camp and do adventurous activities with my grandkids. After school came university. Since then, I have kept learning and studying, formally and informally, to keep learning and growing. My plan is to never stop learning and growing.
KNOWING WHAT’S IMPORTANT
Relationships and family have always been the most important for me. My husband of forty-plus years, my four adult children, and six grandchildren have taught me so much. My work has taken me from the majestic High Andes in Bolivia, South America, to the steamy tropics of metropolitan Singapore, to the green and sulphur smell of volcanic Rotorua, New Zealand. I have been a missionary, teacher, McDonald’s crew leader, course leader and director, strategic planner, business innovator, real estate sales agent, change manager, board member. I have worked in government, private enterprise and the not for profit sector. I tell you this so you can see where I come from. I value a life that includes health in body, mind and relationships. As well as achievement, contribution and financial success. My coaching and training is not for everyone. Are paying too much for your life, sacrificing your relationships with those you love and sacrificing your health? Do you want to change and experience more joy and balance in your life? The I look forward to serving you.
MOVING FROM WEARY TO HOPE
Do you have dreams or goals? Or have they been squashed down or beaten out of you? Or have they been stolen from you? Do you hold onto them with faint hope? If so I understand. I even understand why you may not like even thinking of goals and dreams. Whatever your situation is, I want you to know it’s okay. It is only your starting point. I believe in you. You can believe in you! It doesn’t matter who you are or what you are doing and how much is going on in your life right now. The fact that you are here tells me you have what it takes to change your life and your loved ones; futures. Your choice is what makes the difference.
In the past, I felt frustrated, lost, and not worth very much at all, but I was determined not to stay down. I was at a turning point. I resolved to move forward and change things! I had doubts, but I surrounded myself with people who had done what I wanted to do, through books and face to face. I rested. I nourished my body and mind. I kept going. I moved from weary and lost, to hopeful and growing. Your life has brought you this point, to this blog and these clues. I know that is not an accident. You are here because you have a mountain to climb. You can create joy and a positive future. Your mountain is waiting.
LET’S GO TOGETHER
Don’t climb alone! It is so much easier, and more fun, when you go with others. I want to be your mentor, your accountability partner, during fun and tough times, the person you look towards, to face and overcome your challenges. I know, because of my own experience, and because of the results I have seen, you can do what it takes.
Your life, as you live it now, is your box. Are you ready to take the first step outside your box? Are you ready to expand your comfort zone, step into the new you, be fully you and fully alive? Are you ready to achieve your highest goals, goals aligned with who you really are, what you stand for, and what is most important in your life? Will you join me for your adventure? The journey is worth it. You are worth it. Those you love are worth it!
Are you ready? Great, let’s get started. Now is your time! Let’s go!
Watch out next week for how to get started.